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How to Transition Your Emotional Triggers

How to Transition Your Emotional Triggers

While still very much an extrovert, I’m an observer by nature, and recently I have been watching the emotional triggers I see happening around me. I get that not one ounce of what’s happening right now is fun or funny, but here’s what’s important: we have to start moving into a place of empowerment despite the circumstances.

We can do this by continuing to dig in and find what is healing and nurturing to ourselves. Understanding your emotional triggers are hugely important if you want to live a life of alignment and real wealth.

Understanding Emotional Triggers

I wrote my first book, The Emotion Behind Money, because I was noticing that the things happening around money really had nothing to do with money itself. It had way more to do with the emotions behind our money. This massive discovery became part of my message, ultimately leading me down this rabbit hole now 15 years later where I have really started to pay attention to the emotional side of money… and people’s emotional triggers.

Emotions are incredibly important. Have you ever stopped to wonder what causes you to respond and react in a certain way? As I observe, I see that the way we respond and react to the world today has a lot to do with what is coming in and towards us on an emotion level. Meaning, we react differently emotionally depending on what’s thrown at us.

Modern research explains why.

Why Do Emotional Triggers Happen

When I was talking with someone who is very near and dear to my heart over the weekend, he reminded me of something: Dr. Bruce Lipton, author of Biology of Belief, explained that it has been scientifically proven that 97 percent of our response to the external world comes from our subconscious mind and not our conscious mind.

When we are emotionally triggered, we have to understand, in most instances, this comes from our subconscious mind. It comes from our memory, which lives at the back of our heads. It doesn’t come from our present or by living in the moment, which is all processed in the frontal portion of our brain. It comes from the back of our brain and is a completely different part of our nervous system.

Think of it like this: we have two operating systems in our minds. One is the conscious mind. If we consciously knew how to respond in every situation, we’d respond in a better way (usually). But then we have the subconscious mind, which relies on past occurances, memory, trauma, and reaction to find a safe response to external events. We use both, flipping back and forth between the two to find responses, but 97 percent of the time we’re operating under our subconscious system.

Remember, this system is in the back of our mind, with our memory that triggers the heck out of us, and leads to emotional responses based in anger, impatience, fear, etc.

How do we fix this?

Healing Emotional Triggers

Firstly, I’ve noticed that we need to hold safe space for other people’s triggers, especially right now. It’s a hard time and it can be difficult to understand exactly how and when you’re being triggered, or by what. So be kind.

If you’re being triggered, I encourage you to review research from a teacher of mine: Rita Hickman. I’ve worked with Rita for years and I’ve included her resource here to help you. These traumas we’ve had in our childhoods and our experiential past are stuck in our brains, in our amygdala, but if we’re going to heal from our past then we’ve got to permanently shift our physiological response. This is literally a chemical shift that happens in our brains and there are many exercises you can do to help accomplish this, but it’s so important that you do so if you want to have healthier subconscious reactions.

This is the gold nugget I want you to grab today: to heal our emotional triggers, we have to heal our subconscious mind.

Final Thoughts

We have to remember that we are the creators of our lives. If we desire to create something new, we have to physiologically change the way our brain and our subconscious mind respond to the world. When you are trying to heal your emotions around relationships, work, your kids, or your money, you have to change your subconscious mind. There is no other way around it or you’re going to keep that suffering cycle going around and around.

It’s time to step out of these suffering cycles and step in love. This really starts in a place of self love and self care. Contact me, stop by my Facebook lives, or check out my other resources for help. It’s time for us to move out of fear, move out of emotional triggers, stop responding from a subconscious mind, and heal.

Living From the Inside Out

Living From the Inside Out

Living From the Inside Out

We’re living in a very curious season of life right now. I’m watching as yet another time period passes where the markets are going a little crazy, there’s no toilet paper in the stores, and all the pasta has disappeared from the shelves of my local Whole Foods.

This is scary and stressful for many of us. As I’m watching, I see how a lot of us are really hitting a place where we’re experiencing some strong emotions behind our money. Stress. Fear. Uncertainty. It has everything to do with what’s going on with the coronavirus right now. Our finances are really up in the air to an extent, and that’s causing a lot of fear based emotions.

But we don’t have to live like this.

What Is Living From the Inside Out

Now, I’m not going to talk to you about tons of detailed financial stuff, how it’s impacting your bank account and the markets, or the likelihood of a recession. What I am here to say, however, is this: We need to start living our lives from the inside out, and we need to start living that way right now.

We have to move on from this place of looking at things from outside ourselves and start seeing from what’s inside ourselves if we want to proceed in a happy, balanced, wealthy way.

This is what I mean…

If you allow the left side of your brain to hijack the right side of your brain, especially in times such as now, then you’re inviting panic into your life since the only thing you’re listening to is the external. You’re not paying attention to what you want deeply, which is far more peaceful, loving, and more cohesive than the external panic.

When what is true for you as a person on the inside doesn’t match up with what’s happening outside, then you know you’re being called to get things in order. What I mean by this, is that if you are not living in a way that’s aligned with yourself but rather being carried by external factors, you aren’t in a state of what I call REAL WEALTH.

I talk about this a great deal in my second book, Awaken Your Wealth. I explain that we need to change our approach to how we insulate ourselves against the macroeconomics occurring around us on a big level so that we can live with REAL WEALTH.

How to Live with Real Wealth

How do we do that? How do we find real wealth amidst the chaos around us in the world?

Well, we have to do it deliberately. I want you to take some time to yourself to sit there and purposefully delve deep into your life. You need to be honest with yourself, and say, “Okay, if we do tip into a recession or if we don’t, I need to start building my life from the inside out. I need to remain true to me and not let these outward experiences sway me.”

For those of us who have families or businesses, what this means is that regardless of how things go, how long this downturn lasts, or how long there’s a shortage of toilet paper and pasta at the stores… it’s super duper important that we stay centered, calm, and true to our inward selves.

A lot of you out there know that there’s the holistic side of what I do as well as the left-brain more logical side. It’s so, so important, especially in times like these, that we meld these two together, which is a process called Coherence. While the world is falling apart around us, it’s so important that we fall together. We have to merge these two because one is our heads and one is our hearts, and if we’re not working in harmony with ourselves, we can’t be healthy.

Start Living From the Inside Out Today

If you allow your brain to dictate everything and external factors to determine your path, then you’re allowing your ego, which is your mind, to take control. That’s a recipe for disaster. Our egos are being challenged today, and if you approach everything that’s happening around you from your ego, then I guarantee you that you’ll have problems.

Why?

Because you’re not coherent, and you’re not living from the inside out.