Here’s a question I’ve been getting a lot lately… Julie, how can I dream about the next steps of my life when I feel so stuck where I am?
Honestly, it all boils down to self love. You have to see your worth, and then you have to start dreaming where you can.
Focus on the Beginning
I know for a fact that we as humans do not have to call in a crisis to actually create our shift and manifest our dreams. We just have to start, even if it means starting small. Maybe the dreams are teeny tiny at first, usually because that’s all we can do at the moment, but once you really start manifesting your dreams, you start to open things up and those dreams only get bigger and bigger.
Your life is worth it. I have watched so many people create disease in their bodies because they’re not following what their dreams are or pursuing their deepest desires. Not all of us know what our true dreams are, so just focus on where it starts. Maybe you just need to make the list of the relationship you want to be in or the job you would really desire. Put it up on the fridge, your car, or wherever you will see it regularly and remember.
I talk with people all the time who want to be in such great relationships but are struggling, so I ask them, “Where’s the list? Where’s the list of attributes we’ve talked about that you want in a relationship?”
Usually they respond saying, “Well, it’s buried somewhere in my desk,” to which I can only respond: then it’s no wonder the dream you want is buried away in real life.
You have to put it front and center in your awareness. You have to begin to dream if you want to get unstuck and you have to keep centered in your awareness.
You Are Worth It
At the end of the day, it really boils down to self love and self care. If you’re having a hard time dreaming, do those little things every day that will help remind you how important you are, even if it’s just a walk in the park, a salt bath, or a nutritious meal. There were certainly days when I was going through my divorce where I could barely step my foot into the tub, but I poured my salts in there and I did it anyway. I told myself, “This is my self love exercise for the day,” and it helped me open back up. It helped me find bigger dreams.
You have to do those itty bitty things so you can start opening up the dream again, because you matter.
Wow the last few months have been a ride, huh? We’ve had so many things occur and so many random things come up in the last few months.Through all of it, I think it’s super important for all of us to pay attention to the signs we’re receiving in our lives.
What are the signs saying?
Whether you follow astrological charts or not, (though I don’t personally follow them closely, I’ve known enough to know) there are signs all around us pushing us towards destinations, and one of the things we need to realize is this: whenever we see a sign, we need to pay attention to it. It’s there for a reason.
Now more than ever we have this polarity going on between being spiritually guided or being drawn to the light, or even doing the right thing and what i call heart based consciousness… and then what our mind or “ego” is trying to convince us to do. It’s a constant struggle between these two. Some would say it’s the dark and the light (going from our mind and our ego is the dark, and our hearts are the light), and if you aren’t choosing everything from your heart right now… then you run the risk of recreating your suffering cycles.
This is so important for you to grasp.
Sometimes a break brings clarity…
There is so much chaos and stress happening around us right now. It can become absolutely overwhelming.I took a break recently and went back to Sedona. I knew it was necessary for me, and something that became super, super clear to me while I was there was how we all have to get back to our own personal new beginning.
Some States in the United States are going back to work and that can be complicated, but no matter what you want to feel about it… you’re a different person now then you were before all of this COVID stuff started happening.
You’re a different mom, a different friend, a different coworker. Everything has shifted inside of all of us and we have to focus on what’s truly, deeply important to us as humans: our purpose, or our “new beginning.”
The New Beginning.
So in this new beginning process, a new awakening is necessary and envisioning that new awakening is key to the entire process. It’s like I talk about in my book, Awaken Your Wealth. The first step in the process, which is most important, is the “P” which is Picturing. It involves picturing the life you want to create. Without it, there would be no progress at all.
If you look at the astrological charts, which I mentioned at the beginning of this blog, you would see that they show that everything and anything you put in the world right here and right now is what you’re going to call in for the rest of your life.
What you put into the world, what you picture, is what will become.
The things you do now, the values you set as priorities and the task you determine as important, are what will matter in the long run. That means you have an opportunity to let go of everything that’s holding you back and manifest the things you want.
Awakening Your Dream Life
I always talk about cleaning up your past while living in the present moment and planning for the future at the same time. We have a very unique opportunity right now that involves dropping everything from the past, including how you operated and how you know you no longer want to operate. You get to determine your future, as long as you focus on where you want to go and what you want to create with all the life you have ahead of you.
You get to see the signs in your life and respond to them appropriately.
Chase your dream. Chase your vision. But don’t feel as though you have to do it alone. Reach out for help along the way, take advantage of my Awaken Your Wealth, Awaken your Health, and Awaken Your Relationships opportunities.
Today I want to give you three tips on how you can reestablish your “knowing,” which is what’s going on in your heart and body, and not just your head. It’s time to fully choose happiness. Choose health. Choose an end to distractions. Seek these things out.
I hope you’re ready!
3 Tips for Reestablishing Your Knowing
1. Catch Your Contemplation
One of the first ways you can tell that you’re in your mind or ego and not your inner knowing is that you’re contemplating different scenarios, trying to decide between this and that, and ultimately wrapped up in an inner debate with yourself.
Think about it. What ways do you get stuck in your head?
If you find yourself asking, “What about this? Or what about that? But this? But that? But this?” then understand this as a clear sign that you are not in your inner knowing. If you were in your inner knowing, you wouldn’t be pulling this grand debate up and going back and forth about it.
So how do we fix this?
You first have to recognize that you are in your mind, having an inner conflict, and need to reestablish your inner knowing. Begin by taking a deep breath, then breathe all the conflict out. It might sound simple, but this helps get you back into your body, which helps you reestablish your knowing.
2. Be Honest About Your Distractions
You know you’re not in your inner knowing when your physical body is reacting in some way. Everyone has a body intelligence that is absolutely incredible. The issue is that we’ve ignored it, particularly here in the western world, for generations. Even so, our body intelligence shows up in various ways.
For example, you find yourself choosing various distractions (eating, smoking, drinking, etc.) and your body is showing signs of anxiety or depression. These things are telling you that you are not in your knowing.
To reestablish your knowing, you need to get back into your body. Start by asking questions: why am I feeling this anxiety? Why did I just grab that bar of chocolate and shove it in my mouth? Why did I crack open that soda and chug it? Why am I choosing to smoke cigarettes and feeling like I need to distract myself?
There’s an awful lot of us who are not aligned with our body intelligence these days, so try to reestablish your knowing by not buying those things that are distractions for you the next time you go to the grocery store. Pause, realize when you’re in anxiety and when you’re choosing distractions, and then start making conscious choices to not participate in those distractions. This way, you can get back to your body and be in your inner knowing.
3. Beware of Repeating Patterns
How often do you find yourself repeating patterns? Maybe you’ve realized, “Hey, I’m having this conversation again with another person, and it’s the same conversation I’ve been having for a decade, and it’s like going down the same path, and I keep recreating this suffering cycle… ”
Can you relate?
What these cycles tell me is that you’re not in your knowing. How do I know this? Because you’re approaching things from the back of your head, from your amygdala, which is where all your subconscious patterning comes from. Any of you who’ve watched me or read my book before know that when we follow our subconscious patterning (in our amygdala), we can’t also live in the present moment (processed by our frontal lobe). We can’t be in these two places at once.
Remember that we have two operating systems: our conscious mind and our subconscious mind. So if we’re coming from our subconscious mind, we’re responding with a pattern that has been ingrained in us for our entire lives because these patterns have been established by the time we’re seven years old.
So how do you reestablish your knowing after being in the place of repeating subconscious patterns? With a thing called “havening.” You have to cross your left and right brain again, and here’s how you do that:
Begin by identifying how triggered you are on a scale of one to ten. Be honest with yourself. Then cross your arms over your front and run your hands from your shoulders all the way down to at least your elbows. Repeat twenty times. Once you’re done with your twenty, think again, “Where am I on my one-to-ten chart?”
When I do this on a physical level, it pulls me out of my subconscious mind and my past, putting me into my present moment. Not only that, but it physiologically changes me on a cellular level so I am better prepared to proceed in my knowing.
Here’s the proof I want you to look for so you know you’re getting closer to being in your knowing: you’re having fewer inner debates, you’re getting involved in fewer power struggles, you’re having less anxiety and depression, or you’re in fewer repeating conversations, events, and patterns. When you’ve done the work and gotten into your knowing, these toxic things will all fall away.
Then the trick is, you must allow them to fall away. That’s the key.
Finding your inner guidance is about learning to trust your gut feeling. But connecting to that signal can be a little tricky because we are bombarded with internal and external information all day every day.
I love to sail, and trying to find the right direction (or signal) on open waters I use a nautical map. If you’ve never seen one before, the map is covered with lines of information going every different direction. Ultimately, when you learn to interpret the lines and focus on the important ones, they will guide you to where you want to go. This is similar to tapping into your inner guidance. You can use meditation, journaling, reflection, or dream work to create your map of inner knowing to direct you on your life’s journey.
I followed my inner guidance in writing my books. I never planned on being an author. I was a finance major in college, so writing books wasn’t on my radar. But my intuition started tugging at me. I knew that I needed to write a book about people’s relationship with money and how their emotions affect it. I was nervous, but I trusted my intuition. It lead me to write and publish The Emotion Behind Money. Later, when I was drawn to write Awaken Your Wealth, my inner knowing directed me to create a step-by-step process to guide people toward improving their finances and every aspect of their lives. I have been humbled by the positive response and numerous comments about how my advice is helping people to financially heal themselves.
Acting on your passions
I believe that when you set yourself on your life’s purpose, doors fly open. And I am the prime example of that. I’m a money person and never planned on writing books. But when I let go of the resistance and followed my intuition, a whole new slew of opportunities came my way. Just because I haven’t always considered myself a writer, it doesn’t mean I don’t have valuable information to share. And just because you may not be a financial professional doesn’t mean you can’t be financially savvy with what you have.
Your true calling
Maybe there’s something that has been nagging away at you. You’ve got a great idea for a business but haven’t acted on it. Or you’ve dreamt of moving to another country but have found reasons why it’s not possible. Whatever it is you think you can’t achieve, I’m telling you that you can. Writing books wasn’t part of my financial training, yet what I have written continues to help countless people heal their issues with money. When you set your intentions on your soul’s purpose, you are on the right path towards a fulfilling life.
Avoiding the crabs in your bucket
Once you have figured out what you want and start acting on it, opportunities will arise. People will see what you’re doing and offer to help you get to where you’re trying to go. But that doesn’t mean there won’t be any setbacks on the way to your ultimate goal. When things are going well, the crabs in your bucket tend to ramp it up. They try to plant seeds of doubt to trip you up. Sometimes, we let those words discourage us. Even when we’ve been plugging away and finding success, the crabs can still have a negative effect on us.
No matter what your goals are, know that it is possible. If you want to buy a home this year, you can do it with some planning (and some help with automated savings). If you want to write a book, set an hour of your day aside just for writing. And if you want to create the exact career you want so you can have a fulfilling work life, you can do that too. Maintain your focus on your intuition and follow your true desires; you’ll be on your way to having the exact life you crave.
Today, many of us create our financial lives by building it from the outside in. Why? Because the entire way our system is set up today from our educational systems, our career systems, our family structures, etc teach us on some level that something outside of us is better than the version that we are. Our systems teach us that we are flawed on some level. That we need to improve what we are not good at as opposed to really focusing on what we are inherently really good at and amplifying those talents.